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Somewhere along the way, “tradition” started to mean doing the same things every year, even if they don’t light us up anymore. Same schedule. Same recipes. Same emotional hangover. This year, I decided to ask a different question: What would the holidays look like if I built them around peace instead of pressure? Because here’s the thing, you’re allowed to evolve. And when you evolve, your traditions should too. 1. Start by noticing what drains you If there’s something you’ve

We talk a lot about boundaries, red flags, and protecting our peace and yes, those things matter. But somewhere along the way, many of us learned to treat every  disappointment like danger. One missed text? Red flag. A canceled plan? They don’t value you. A moment of emotional unavailability? Must be unsafe. But here’s the truth we don’t always love to sit with: Not everyone who disappoints you is unsafe. Sometimes they’re just… human. Why Your Nervous System Goes Into Alert

We all say we want a “village.” A support system. A community. A circle that gets it. But here’s the hard truth: Everyone wants the village… until it’s time to be  a villager. The Idea of Community Feels Romantic, Until It Requires You It’s easy to crave connection when you’re lonely. It’s harder to maintain a connection when you’re busy, insecure, or healing. Being part of a village means more than being seen. It means showing up. Checking in. Listening when it’s inconvenien

There was a time I thought “boring” meant I was doing something wrong. If my days weren’t overflowing with projects, plans, and new chaos, I assumed I was falling behind. So I chased stimulation, mistaking urgency for meaning. It looked ambitious from the outside, but inside? I was exhausted. My nervous system was surviving on adrenaline and calling it motivation. Then one morning, I realized the peace I’d been craving was hiding inside the “boring” things I used to rush thro

Somewhere along the way, we learned to wait. Wait for the text. Wait for the invitation. Wait for the person, job, or opportunity that would finally make us feel wanted, seen, and secure. We start performing for connection without realizing it, shrinking a little, softening opinions, lowering standards, all to be “chosen. ” But here’s the thing: constantly needing to be chosen by others disconnects you from the most important person you’ll ever choose. Y ourself. Why We Chase

You ever wake up one day and realize you’ve completely outgrown the life you built? The clothes still fit. The job still works. The people still care. But something inside you feels like it’s already moved out. That’s what I call an identity hangover. It’s that weird, floaty space between versions of yourself. The old one doesn’t fit anymore, but the new one isn’t fully comfortable yet. It’s awkward. It’s disorienting. We talk a lot about transformation like it’s instant. Lik