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A lot of people who pride themselves on being “nice” aren’t actually choosing kindness. They’re choosing access. They’re choosing to be reachable, flexible, helpful, accommodating, agreeable… even when it costs them sleep, peace, time, money, energy, or self-respect. And then they’re confused why they feel resentful. So let’s clear this up: Kindness is a value. Availability is a capacity. Those are not the same thing. Kindness is how you treat people. Availability is how much

Lately, the world feels loud in a way that’s hard to ignore. Global conflict. Political tension. Economic uncertainty. Constant updates and commentary coming at you from every direction. Even if you’re not directly affected, your body still absorbs it. Your nervous system still registers the instability. So if you’ve felt more tired, more anxious, more irritable, or just a little off... that makes sense. Humans weren’t built to process this much information about the world al

You didn’t expect your peace to shift your friendships.... You thought heartbreak might. Chaos might. But not happiness. You worked so hard to find this version of yourself, calm, confident, grounded, and yet some of the people who once felt closest have started to drift. The messages slow down. The connection fades. You can feel it, even when no one says it. And you wonder: Why does it feel lonelier when I’m finally okay? The truth? Happiness doesn’t just change your life. I

Somewhere along the way, “tradition” started to mean doing the same things every year, even if they don’t light us up anymore. Same schedule. Same recipes. Same emotional hangover. This year, I decided to ask a different question: What would the holidays look like if I built them around peace instead of pressure? Because here’s the thing, you’re allowed to evolve. And when you evolve, your traditions should too. 1. Start by noticing what drains you If there’s something you’ve

We talk a lot about boundaries, red flags, and protecting our peace and yes, those things matter. But somewhere along the way, many of us learned to treat every  disappointment like danger. One missed text? Red flag. A canceled plan? They don’t value you. A moment of emotional unavailability? Must be unsafe. But here’s the truth we don’t always love to sit with: Not everyone who disappoints you is unsafe. Sometimes they’re just… human. Why Your Nervous System Goes Into Alert

We all say we want a “village.” A support system. A community. A circle that gets it. But here’s the hard truth: Everyone wants the village… until it’s time to be  a villager. The Idea of Community Feels Romantic, Until It Requires You It’s easy to crave connection when you’re lonely. It’s harder to maintain a connection when you’re busy, insecure, or healing. Being part of a village means more than being seen. It means showing up. Checking in. Listening when it’s inconvenien